I thought I would share a quote from “Your Many Faces,” by Virginia Satir.
“When we see a garden of flowers and notice that there are differences among them, it is easy for us to think of them as variations. When we do this, we experience good feelings. Variation and variety are thought of as positive. When we see a group of people together and notice that they, like the flowers, are different from each other, we have an inclination to think of these as differences. Different somehow brings to mind difficulties and fear, and it is easy to prepare defenses.”