Intimacy

“Speaking briefly. Speaking slowly. Listening deeply. Showing appreciation and remaining positive. Observing our inner speech and cultivating inner silence. Studying the other person’s facial expressions, body gestures, and vocal inflections and mirroring them to build neural resonance. Focusing on your inner values and bringing them into every conversation as you remain as relaxed and as present as you can. These are the twelve strategies that are essential if you want to build meaningful, trustworthy, and long-term productive relationships with others. If you ignore any of them, the research suggests that you will compromise your ability to communicate and increase the risk of conflict.”

“Words Can Change Your Brain,” – by Andrew Newberg M.D and Mark Robert Waldman

Quotes from The Little Prince.

“Grown-ups love figures… When you tell them you’ve made a new friend they never ask you any questions about essential matters. They never say to you “What does his voice sound like? What games does he love best? Does he collect butterflies? ” Instead they demand “How old is he? How much does he weigh? How much money does his father make? ” Only from these figures do they think they have learned anything about him.”

“I have lived a great deal among grown-ups. I have seen them intimately, close at hand. And that hasn’t much improved my opinion of them.”

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince

“People where you live,” the little prince said, “grow five thousand roses in one garden… yet they don’t find what they’re looking for…

They don’t find it,” I answered.

And yet what they’re looking for could be found in a single rose, or a little water…”

Of course,” I answered.

And the little prince added, “But eyes are blind. You have to look with the heart.”

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince

“The most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or touched, they are felt with the heart.”

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince

“All men have stars, but they are not the same things for different people. For some, who are travelers, the stars are guides. For others they are no more than little lights in the sky. For others, who are scholars, they are problems… But all these stars are silent. You-You alone will have stars as no one else has them… In one of the stars I shall be living. In one of them I shall be laughing. And so it will be as if all the stars will be laughing when you look at the sky at night..You, only you, will have stars that can laugh! And when your sorrow is comforted (time soothes all sorrows) you will be content that you have known me… You will always be my friend. You will want to laugh with me. And you will sometimes open your window, so, for that pleasure… It will be as if, in place of the stars, I had given you a great number of little bells that knew how to laugh”

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince

“A rock pile ceases to be a rock pile the moment a single man contemplates it, bearing within him the image of a cathedral.”

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince

“When someone blushes, doesn’t that mean ‘yes’?”

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince

Ego State Therapy

I just finished re-reading “Ego State Therapy” by Gordon Emmerson, PhD and wanted to share this paragraph with you:

“It is feelings that define us as human. Feelings touch our souls and bring richness to life. When a part of our psyche is injured, traumatized, and frail, we avoid it and hide from it. We learn to live a task-orientated, detached existence. To paste a coping skill on the surface of an injured personality is to further remove that person emotionally from self. The further we are removed from our beautiful child states, which are able to feel deeply, which are able to feel love and wonder, the more like a robot or computer we become. We learn to function and go on, but do we learn to live more richly? Improving mental health is being able to re-enter that fragile center part and feel deeply.”

A Great Start!

I survived Christmas, New Year and two family birthday parties. I am filled with an excited expectation about 2014. Hypnotherapy is proving to be more and more clearly my calling in life. I enjoy the people I mix with and my clients immensely. I have a couple more classes coming up. The first is a hypnosis class! It is important to continue learning.  Every teacher brings something new and the more tricks and techniques a hypnotherapist possesses the more likely he or she is able to help clients. A week later I have a two week Master NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) class. Two weeks of sharing and practicing amazing techniques for quick and permanent change.

2013-2014

As 2013 comes to an end, I don’t believe I have ever been happier or more content. I am grateful to my clients who bring me much joy and satisfaction and remind me that I am doing what I was put on this earth to do. I am reminded that we should all endeavor to find our calling and follow our unique paths. Much of the anxiety we may feel is a result of living lives others dreamed for us or because we fear change. One thing is true, nothing ever stays the same, so navigate your own change rather than be swept out on the current. What an amazing freedom, knowing we can determine our future, that we are at the helm.

Wishing you all a fabulous 2014!

NLP, EFT & TIME techniques

What an amazing week with Jay Williams and fellow class attendees. I am now even better versed in Milton Erickson lingo and have an arsenal of amazing new techniques that work! TIME techniques remove limiting beliefs and negative emotions. Parts integration solves conflict to  create your compelling future.

NLP

I am taking a week long NLP practitioner class with Jay Williams. A lot of fun but phew, a lot to take in. What is NLP?

NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. There are many definitions but perhaps the most explanatory is:

The use of basic language to influence the subsonscious enabling us to consistently achieve the results we want in our life.

Beecham Parker

Yesterday I went to an amazing session with medium and spiritual teacher Beecham Parker. There were four of us in the group and we all received messages from loved ones. Really amazing!

Our Biology

Author Caroline Myss said “our biography becomes our biology.” If we believe this then surely we do the best we can to live the life we want? Our aches, pains, and excuses hold us back or serve as secondary gain. Ask yourself, “how would my life look without this?” and you may be surprised to find that you have held on to that particular ailment for a reason. Accepting that there is no distinction between body and mind we try harder to nurture our spirits and our bodies follow suit.

Hypnosis or relaxation?

10/14/13

At a recent hypnosis Meetup, we discussed how people are still afraid to be ‘hypnotized.’ How can we ease them of these reservations so that they can benefit from, at the very least, a time of peaceful reflection? I suggested referring to it as ‘focused relaxation.’ I encouraged my friend from El Salvador to have a session for issues related to weight. She was reluctant for all the old religious reasons but trusted me and left the session feeling motivated, relaxed, and with a new insight. She is now trying to get her friends from Al-Anon to try it but all have the same reservations.  I’ll admit I initially had trepidations too and was maybe a tiny bit disappointed when I left the session feeling like ‘nothing had happened.’ I did enjoy the one-on-one interaction with my hypnotherapist Kathe Caldwell, but surely I hadn’t been hypnotized? Now I find hypnosis in my life to be as important as massage is to some or a chiropractic adjustment to others. It’s a decadent gelato and expresso on a narrow, cobbled Italian street. Yes, that’s what it is to me!