Marianne Williamson

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

“A Return to Love,” by Marianne Williamson.

 

 

Virginia Satir

I thought I would share a quote from “Your Many Faces,” by Virginia Satir.

“When we see a garden of flowers and notice that there are differences among them, it is easy for us to think of them as variations. When we do this, we experience good feelings. Variation and variety are thought of as positive. When we see a group of people together and notice that they, like the flowers, are different from each other, we have an inclination to think of these as differences. Different somehow brings to mind difficulties  and fear, and it is easy to prepare defenses.”

Performance Enhancement

New York Times

VITAL SIGNS: PERFORMANCE; For Athletes, Better Focus With Hypnosis

By PAUL GAINS
Published: December 29, 1998

 

“Moments before the gun sounded to start his World Cup 400m race, Iwan Thomas gently tugged on his left ear lobe. This subtle movement helped him block out the noise of the crowd and the runners on either side of him. Like a number of other top athletes, Mr. Thomas has been using hypnosis to enhance his performance. The action of pulling his ear lobe is known as an associative post-hypnotic command, which brought him into a heightened state of concentration. He won the race that day, capping off his best season ever.”

I find making a fist works great. Every time something good happens, a feeling of confidence, uncontrollable laughter, I put ‘it’ in the fist that acts as a treasure box, essentially, for me. When I need that extra surge I access my personal power point. As more ‘good stuff’ is added the stronger the feeling of invincibility.

Plasticity

With every book I read I look forward to the nuggets that resonate. I may have heard them before but for some reason they make more sense or have more relevance delivered by that particular author. The ‘nugget’ I want to share today is: “It is also useful to remember that all basic emotional systems are plastic, getting sensitized (stronger) with use and desensitized (weaker) with lack of use. For instance, depression is much more likely to occur in adults who have experienced chronic lack of support and insecurity during childhood. Children who have had a secure base internalize that security for a lifetime.”

The Healing Power of Emotion – by Diana Fosha

Musings

It’s the feel of the sidewalk beneath my feet and smells of the dinners people eat, and the cool of the breeze and the warmth of the sun, and the accomplishment from a day well done, and the blast of joy that warms my heart, and the prickle of sadness that makes me smart, and memories flood and memories ebb, as I walk along with thoughts of bed. Oh what a day, what a life of mine, perfused with moments, weightless in time, these dots on canvas that daub my frame, leave marks of me, but art unnamed, and life will come and life will go and frames on walls of lives unknown, as I walk by the house of bricks, where children idly drag their sticks, along the rail while Tabby Cat, knows exactly when I’ll be back, and windows to my mind are wide, stretched past boundaries, unbound by time, and me the sidewalk ‘neath my feet, instinctively turn down my street.   By Nicky – June, 2014

Losing Our Faculties

I am currently reading “The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat,” by Oliver Sacks. It is a book about individual cases of aphasia and similar conditions where a person suddenly and inexplicably loses their memory, ability to recognize faces, or becomes completely disassociated from their body – usually related to parietal lobe dysfunction. I include a couple of quotes:

“You have to begin to lose your memory, if only in bits and pieces, to realize that memory is what makes our lives. Life without memory is no life at all…Our memory is our coherence, our reason, our feeling, even our action. Without it, we are nothing…(if I can only wait for the final amnesia, the one that can erase an entire life, as it did my mother’s…) – Luis Bunuel.

“The aspects of thing that are most important for us are hidden because of their simplicity and familiarity. (One is unable to notice something because it is always before one’s eyes). The real foundations of his enquiry do not strike a man at all.” – Wittgenstein

Lou Gehrig

Reading about Lou Gehrig who was struck down by ALS, reminded me how, in the depths of despair, we are buoyed by our true, innate human spirit. Why does it take a ‘bad break’ to become accessible? In a moment of despair nothing else matters but existence, resilience, the realization that we need others, and that love supersedes all ?

“Fans, for the past two weeks you have been reading about a bad break I got. Yet today I consider myself the luckiest man on the face of the earth. I have been in ballparks for 17 years and I have never received anything but kindness and encouragement from you fans. Look at these grand men. Which of you wouldn’t consider it the highlight of his career just to associate with them for even one day? Sure, I’m lucky. Who wouldn’t consider it an honor to have known Jacob Ruppert? Also, the builder of baseball’s greatest empire, Ed Barrow? To have spent six years with that wonderful little fellow, Miller Huggins? Then to have spent the next nine years with that outstanding leader, that smart student of psychology, the best manager in baseball today, Joe McCarthy? Sure, I’m lucky. When the New York Giants, a team you would give your right arm to beat, and vice versa, sends you a gift, that’s something. When everybody down to the groundskeepers and those boys in white coats remember you with trophies, that’s something. When you have a father and mother who work all their lives so that you can have an education and build your body, it’s a blessing. When you have a wife who has been a tower of strength and shown more courage than you dreamed existed, that’s the finest I know. So I close in saying that I might have had a bad break, but I have an awful lot to live for.”

Just a thought…

“Physiology of Behavior,” – by Neil Carlson

“The last frontier in this world – and perhaps the greatest one – lies within us. The human nervous system makes possible all that we can do, all that we can know, and all that we can experience. Its complexity is immense, and the task of studying it and understanding it dwarfs all previous explorations our species has undertaken.

One of the most universal human characteristics is curiosity. We want to explain what makes things happen. In ancient times, people believed that natural phenomena were caused by animating spirits. All moving objects – animals, the wind and tides, the sun, moon, and stars – assumed to have spirits that caused them to move. As our ancestors became more sophisticated and learned more about nature, they abandoned this approach (animism) in favor of physical explanations for inanimate moving objects. But they still used spirits to explain human behavior.

From the earliest historical times, people have believed that they possess something intangible that animates them: a mind, or a soul, or a spirit. This belief stems from the fact that each of us is aware of his or her own existence. When we think or act, we feel as though something inside us is thinking or deciding to act. But what is the nature of the human mind?”

Cheers!

On a recent trip to London I enjoyed one particular evening in a new wine bar in Hackney. Not having lived in England for years, and far removed from the London culture, I was like a child making their first discovery. People were fascinating. For me it is strange to step foot in a country once so familiar, yet feel so removed.  A young chap – a patron of the bar, immediately struck up a conversation with us spouting the best wines and urging us to try them. “This one is sublime, enjoy the hint of chocolate and melon, ah yes, and the oaky aftertaste.” As we nodded obligingly he continued, “it’s the roots, the roots go deep into the earth, not the shallow roots of so many vines.” Ah it was the roots we had to thank, not the grapes, the calloused hands of migrant workers, not the fine science of blend and taste, and not the rich energy of the sun.

And so I make a metaphoric comparison to human spirit. If our roots go deep we have history, connection, familial ties, purpose, security, and legacy, good or bad. If our roots barely graze the earth we are young, weak, disconnected, frail, and uncertain. We rely on external factors to give us strength, the energy of people, the tending to by friends, the fine blending of companionship, but the quality of our person whether roots burrow deep or rest on the surface is to be judged only by those who love us and, perhaps more importantly, by ourselves.

Ah London with its ever changing demographic and the most exquisite parks I’ve ever wandered with their ancient oaks, sycamore, beech, and willows, whose roots run deep and whose foliage affords shade. Like a character in a movie, scenes rolled by me, familiar smells and the coo of the pigeons that sent cascades of memories through my blood, my heart, my bile, so I was continuously transported back through time, darting from moments of joy to moments of despair –

Or perhaps it was just the wine and that magical trip is simply stored within my memory to be retrieved on future meanderings, daubed in inaccuracies, but replete with emotion.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming

I am on day ten of a 14 day NLP class. What a ride! Time Techniques are absolutely amazing for visualizing future successes and placing them in your time line; also excellent for releasing negative emotions and limiting beliefs. Time Techniques can also be used to treat phobias in conjunction with mind scrambles. What fun. My brain has been pushed to its limit these past two weeks, considering all sorts of interesting concepts and quantum physics!